EFT Therapy Relationship Counseling Irvine

EFT Therapy in Irvine

You can’t keep living like this; together but disconnected.

You love each other, but something feels off. The closeness you once had feels distant. Conversations turn into arguments, or silence. You start wondering if true connection is even possible again. That’s often when couples reach out for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

It’s painful to keep cycling through the same patterns, one of you pulling away, the other pushing harder, both feeling unheard. Over time, the emotional distance grows until it feels like a wall. You remember what warmth used to feel like, but it’s hard to reach.

You both want more, more honesty, more tenderness, but fear gets in the way. The fear of making things worse. The fear of being misunderstood. So you stop trying to talk, or you swallow your words to avoid another blow up. The silence between you becomes heavier than the words you don’t say.

Even in the same room, you can feel miles apart. You wonder if the love you share can survive this, or if you’ve grown too far apart to find your way back. Yet something in you still hopes.

There’s an ache that’s hard to put into words

It’s the ache of knowing the person you love most doesn’t fully see what’s going on inside you. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, had the 2 a.m. talks, but the same stuckness returns. You’ve both tried to bridge the distance with playlists, notes, or promises, yet it never quite lasts.

You just want this to be different. You’re ready to understand what keeps the walls so high and to reach for each other again without fear.

You need a place where you can both put the armor down. A place where the pauses aren’t heavy with tension, where you don’t feel the need to defend every word, where you can look at each other and see the person you fell in love with; not the distance that’s grown between you.

Hi, I’m Karl 

I am a couples and relationship counselor Irvine, CA using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

I’m a couples and relationship counselor in Irvine, CA, using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I help partners, families, and close friends untangle the patterns that keep them disconnected. Together we slow things down, identify what each person is feeling and needing, and learn how to truly hear one another again.

Whether you’re coming in as a couple or working on a complex family or friendship dynamic, I offer a space where you can learn to speak honestly and listen differently.

In our sessions, we create steady support for growth and healing. Sometimes that’s through conversation; other times we integrate Brainspotting, movement, or art, whatever helps you connect with your story.

My clients often leave with a stronger sense of self, deeper confidence, and richer relationships. EFT isn’t about blame or judgment, it’s about letting go of shame and learning to see and be seen.

Contact me for a free consultation for EFT Therapy

As a male relationship therapist, I bring both warmth and grounded perspective to help you rebuild trust and deepen emotional safety especially when disconnection has taken hold.

It can feel like a big step to call. I’ll make it easy. We’ll spend 15-minutes and I’ll let you know how or if I can help. If I am not the right person, I’ll do my best to get you to the right person.